“I went in and sat down at the door. The sermon was on the prodigal son, but there is only one word I remember: ‘You are not forgotten or cast off,’ the preacher said. ‘You are missed.’” (Flora Campbell quoted in Prodigals and Those Who Love Them by Ruth Bell Graham).
This quote
has comforted me so many times as I have prayed for my own beloved prodigals,
many of them far beyond my reach. Today, it reminds me what I need to communicate
to those who have wandered away from God—whether to a far-off country, or
just beyond the fringes of the faith community. What they need to hear from me
is not condemnation, words of shame or judgment, or I told you so’s. What they
need to hear is how much I miss them. How much their heavenly Father misses
them and longs for their return.
Of course sin
is wrong. Of course there will be consequences. Restitution must be paid, and
trust earned, and healing will take time. They know that. And
there will be a time to communicate those things, even as I seek God’s help to
forgive them for the harm done.
But
initially, what they need to hear is, “I miss you. I miss the fellowship we
used to share. I miss hearing your laughter. I miss knowing what’s going on in
your life and sharing my life with you. I miss your sense of humor and the
special place you fill that no one else can. I miss discussing the
scriptures and comparing what God is saying to us through it.”
Isn’t that
what brought the prodigal son back home in Jesus’ parable of Luke 15? It was
the knowledge that he was missing out on good stuff going on at Dad's. It was
the shining hope, that despite everything he had done, his father might still take
him back.
As you
pray for the prodigals you know—those who have relapsed into destructive habits
and beliefs, who have been lured into unhealthy relationships, who have
disregarded your warnings and advice, who have idolized people or things
instead of God, who have become discouraged or disillusioned with God’s people,
and even God himself. Pray for opportunities to speak these words: I miss you. You are
valuable. You haven’t been forgotten. Please come back.
And if you
are a prodigal, wondering if anyone has even noticed you're gone, let me
reassure you, you are missed. God sees you there in your pain and confusion and
need, and He is calling you back. He misses the fellowship He once had with
you. And He is calling people to reach out to you daily—in prayer, with a
smile, with a word of comfort or encouragement they didn’t even know you
needed. But He did and He’s speaking to you through them.
You are missed.
This is so good and true. In dealing with our own prodigal, my husband and I finally learned that our daughter wanted to know we still loved and missed her!
ReplyDeleteThank you, Julie. Yes, I think we forget in the midst of our pining and worrying over them that they need to hear that.
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ReplyDeleteDear Beth
You brought tears to my eyes with this. My heart is so burdened for my friends and family who have lost their way. Thank you for this wonderful message!
With much Christian love,
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ReplyDeleteIt's a great blog post. I loved it.
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ReplyDeleteThis really spoke to my heart!
Loretta
Good reminders. We wait and pray and wait at the door.
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